I think, those of us who don’t believe in divorce should believe…. there is no accountability or consequence without the possibility of divorce.
It seems to me, in this world of no divorce, we live in a bubble outside of reality. Our lives have to look perfect to prove we are real. We have to live behind masks to prove we are not phonies. Appearances matter and we become experts at keeping them up.
The truth of the matter is; not one of us is as perfect as our image leads others to believe.
We need to allow ourselves, and each other, to come out from behind our masks and let truth be known. It is possible to love God desperately but stumble and fall, get sick, go bankrupt, or have unruly kids. It is also possible to give the appearance of loving God, with a put together life, while not loving Him at all.
I think, we end up behind a mask because we are afraid of what people will think, we are afraid of being judged and ostracized, we put unfair pressure on ourselves and each other.
Sometimes our masks cover destructive behaviours; some that affect our families, some that happen to our families. While all of us are good at keeping secrets, some of us keep secrets that would have us sent to jail in the real world. The wearing, and the acceptance, of masks makes it possible for this behaviour to continue unchecked.
Consequences may or may not cause the offender to change their behaviour but it would be worth a try.
I think God is sad when He sees divorce for frivolous reasons, but His heart is broken when He see abuse.