Here are some of the books helpful to me on my journey, I hope you will find something helpful to you on your journey. (sorted alphabetically by Author)
If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? My adventures in the art and science of relating and communicating – Alan Alda
A Story of Second Chances – The Heart Mender – Andy Andrews
Healing the Wounded Heart – Dr. Dan B. Allender
To Be Told – Dr. Dan B. Allender
The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse – Dr. Dan B. Allender
T-h-e Bondage Breaker: Overcoming-Negative Thoughts, Irrational Feelings, Habitual Sins – Neil T Anderson
The Secrets Men Keep: How Men Make Life and Love Tougher Than it Has to Be – Stephen Arterburn
Codependant No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself – Melody Beattie
Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All The Time – Melody Beattie
God Allows U-Turns: A Woman’s Journey (True Stories of Hope and Healing) – Allison Gappa Bottke with Cheryll Hutchings
Zen in the Art of Writing: Essays on Creativity – Ray Bradbury
Crazy Love – Francis Chan
Lord, Change Me – Evelyn Carol Christenson ….. The thought in this book was a life changer. As the abused we want our abusers to stop treating us that way when in fact, the only possible way to change our life is by working to change how WE do life, the changes in us will cause changes in our relationships with others whether they change or not.
Changes That Heal: How to Understand Your Past to Ensure a Healthier Future – Dr. Henry Cloud
Our Mothers, Ourselves – Dr. Henry Cloud
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life – Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend….. as abused we were not allowed to have boundaries, no boundaries became a way of life. Realizing we can, and should, have boundaries is a life changer.
The Mom Factor: Dealing with the Mother You … Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
Write Well: A Grammar Guide – Rachelle Rea Cobb
Confronting the Horror: The Aftermath of Violence – Wilma Derksen
Have You Seen Candace – Wilma Derksen
The Way of Letting Go: One Woman’s Walk Toward Forgiveness – Wilma Derksen
Unsettled Weather: How Do I Forgive – Wilma Derksen
Captivating: Unveiling the Mysteries of a Woman’s Soul – John & Stasi Eldredge
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul – John Eldredge
Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt: Hope, Healing, and the Power Of An Open Heart – Jentezen Franklin
An Affair of the Mind: One Woman’s Courageous Battle to Salvage Her Family from the Devastation of Pornography (Focus on the Family) – Laurie Hall
Naked and Not Ashamed – T. D. Jakes
Woman Thou Art Loosed – T. D. Jakes
What if It’s True – Charles Martin
Love Is A Choice: Recovery for Codependent Relationships – Minirth-Meier Clinic Series – Dr. Frank Minirth, Dr. Paul Meier, and others …… of all the books I’ve read this was probably the most helpful, it reads like a textbook and covers a lot of ground.
Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone – Joyce Meyer
Beauty For Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing – Joyce Meyer
Dare to Dance Again: Steps from the Psalms When Life Trips You Up – Cathy Mogus
Emotionally Free: A Prescription for Healing Body, Soul and Spirit – Dr. Grant Mullen
The Message Remix New Testament – Eugene Peterson
Choosing a Way Out: When the Bottom Isn’t the Bottom – Kirsten Samuel
Making Peace With Your Past: Help for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families – Tim Sledge ….. This was the twelve step course most helpful to me, it seemed to be personal, where other were generalized, and focused on heart issues associated with dysfunction.
Love Heals – Becca Stevens
Intimacy Anorexia: Healing the Hidden Addiction in Your Marriage – Doug Weiss Ph.D
Married and Alone – Doug Weiss Ph.D….. the loneliest time of life: living with someone refusing to connect with you.
Making Peace With Your Mom: Steps to a Healthier Mother-Daughter Relationship – H. Norman Wright and Sheryl Wright Macauley ….. while our father may be the main abuser there can still be an element of dysfunction in our mothers and the way they do life. Then again, sometimes our main abuser is our mom.