Chapter Six is about Loving-Kindness.
To catch the full impact of the chapter you need to read the book. My notes are never comprehensive, they are short quotes that capture the essence of a thought standing out to me. Something that grabs my heart.
If you want to love like you`ve never been hurt, get rid of bitterness and start being kind.
Being kind means treating people with respect, apologizing sincerely, and stop criticizing. Doing this all the time.
Forgiveness is important in loving but the other side of it is “I`m sorry.“
If you want to reconcile a relationship, you must be willing to say “I`m sorry.“
This book has many good things to say to us, they are just not always on topic. That`s why skimming to the end for the sake of the topic seems like a good idea for now.
I`ll share a few of the relevant thoughts outlined on Page 226
Key Principles Designed to Help You Love.
- Love never fails. Choose love over hurt.
- It`s never wrong to love people who have messed up.
- It`s unforgivable to not forgive.
- We can begin to love others when we love ourselves.
- We are called to be kind.
- Instead of fanning the flames of discord become a peacemaker.
And a little more.
Offenses are inevitable. No one is exempt.
Some of us look at opposition as a bad thing.
Opposition can cause you to face things and do things you could not have done, had you not had the opposition.
Never give up.
That is the end of this book.
As mentioned earlier, many helpful things were shared in this book and it has been a good read even though it strayed off topic a fair bit. It was written by a pastor with real life experiences not a psychologist so that explains why the perspective is different.
I enjoyed this exercise of sharing a non-fiction book with you.
There are still a number of unread books similar to this on my shelf and I`m planning to choose another one to continue on with this experiment.
It gives me the extra incentive needed to get with it and read instead of allowing them to sit and pile up.
My hope is that you will also find these books helpful as you travel on your personal healing journey.
P.S. as I read back over this post I`m reminded of a book I read years ago.
The flavor of this post is all about changes within us. This thought is reminding me of a book called Lord Change Me.
Really, in the end the only person we can change is ourselves. I know it sounds unfair but it is reality. Changes have to come from inside us, external pressures accomplish little most of the time. We cannot force someone else to want to change
Changing ourselves, especially in the areas of forgiving and loving, has a positive effect on the atmosphere of a relationship. Change begets change.
It pays to embrace change for ourselves.